Paul instructed Titus, in the epistle that bears his name, to have the older women of the congregation guide, advise, and mentor younger women in the pursuit of overseeing godly, family life. Why? Because the older women had “been there and done that” as the saying goes. And, most, if not all, learned valuable lessons, as much from failures as any successes they had.
Too many enter into marriage and then motherhood with a Hollywood idea of what to expect. Either depictions show things as a bed of roses, or a nightmare that takes years from which to awaken. Neither one is accurate. Being a wife and being a mom is HARD work. The kind of work that rarely is appreciated openly by husband or children because so much is done behind the scenes. If something goes smoothly, it isn’t because the task was uncomplicated. Rather, preparation, anticipation, and adjustments were all part of the mix. When done well, it is assumed that it was “no big deal.” But, it is worth all the effort one puts in. Why? Because it is the highest calling for a woman.
Regardless of the stage of mothering one is in, having a person to really share the realities of life (especially one who has travelled the road before) is helpful and rewarding. I’m not sure what I would have done without such help as I was in the season of life with children requiring schooling, correcting, encouragement, challenges, and learning how to “fear God and keep His commandments.”
Look around in your congregation for such a Titus 2 Woman and ask her if she would mind mentoring you. Be upfront. If she declines, accept her response graciously and look again. If you continue to “strike out,” feel free to contact me and we can have a conversation. If you feel the fit is good, then we can proceed.
Asking for help does not mean you have failed. Failing to ask when there are those willing to lend a hand, is the only fail in my book.
The Kingdom-Driven Family 