The Kingdom-Driven Family

Building a Home That Serves Christ and His Kingdom

Widows have never been a popular group in any era of history. Many cultures had such a low regard for widows that in some cases they were buried along with their husbands. At other times, the culture did not allow women whose husbands had died to remarry. This was true even if the marriage occurred when the woman was a child.1 This overlooking of widows must also have been true in terms of Old and New Testament histories because there are repeated instructions and warnings to care for widows, as well as orphans.

Two passages are well known but rarely given much heed, in our day, within the body of believers. Too often, Christians are quick to cite the shortcomings, distortions, and negative effects of modern humanistic statism, without first taking the mote out of their own eyes (Matt. 7:5).

The two passages that are virtually ignored, or merely given lip service, are:

Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction and to keep oneself unstained from the world. (James 1:27)

So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander. (1 Timothy 5:14)

How many Christians are overly concerned about their religion being pure and undefiled? Based on the amount of time given to visiting orphans and widows, most would fail. Some would counter that they do not have many widows in their congregation, and those widows in their church have family that attend to them. This reveals that the term widow in our day is often considered synonymous with an elderly woman whose husband has died.

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{This essay originally appeared in the Sept-Oct issue of the Chalcedon magazine Faith for All of Life.}

Most people expect to spend twelve years in school before they move on to higher education. This may involve another four to twelve years depending on the chosen occupation. A common question is, “When will you be done with school?” as though once schooling is done, education is complete. When we approach the subject this way, we fail to appreciate that the entirety of our lives is involved in education. Looking at education through a humanistic lens causes us to erroneously conclude that we have learned all we need to know. God’s Word tells us that our sanctification is a continual process whereby we grow in knowledge, wisdom, and discernment. Continue reading

In a day when many decry the assault on traditional values  regarding  gender identification and the redefinition of marriage as presented in the public square, it is easy to miss the target of the onslaught. The target has always been Jesus Christ and His law-word. When God’s creation of people as male and female is deemed “not the final say on the matter,” we end up with such confusion as to make everything else in life meaningless. If God didn’t get this right, then who can? Likewise, if we decimate the essence and reality of what becoming “one flesh” means (uniquely possible only between a male and a female), we are destroying the image the Bible gives us of Christ’s relationship to His church and the individual believer.

Martin Luther had this to say when it came to the distinctions of Biblical faith:

 Faith must be purely taught: namely, that He and thou art made as it were one person: so that thou mayest boldly say, I am now one with Christ, that is to say, Christ’s righteousness, victory and life are mine. And again, Christ may say, I am that sinner: that is, his sins and his death are mine because he is united and joined unto me and I unto him. For by faith we are so joined together that we are become one flesh and one bone, we are members of the body of Christ, flesh of His flesh and bone of His bones: so that this faith doth couple Christ and me more nearly together than the husband is coupled to his wife.[i]

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When we hear or read stories about people stepping up to assist in the midst of a natural disaster or an accident, we would like to think that we would do likewise. Yet, there is a lingering doubt that maybe we would freeze or take the easier path. We often cover up those feelings of potential inadequacy or cowardice with the refrain: “It takes a special person to do something like that. He/she is a real hero!”

Recently, I had the chance to witness this phenomenon up close and personally. My daughter, on her way to her nursing job at a regional hospital, encountered a horrific scene as she was travelling 65 miles per hour in the fast lane. She observed a car maneuvering in front of her as if to avoid hitting something. She was correct. The driver ahead was darting out of the way of a significant amount of debris. She needed to do likewise, and as she did she saw what looked like a body that had been hit and was somewhat dismembered. But, she did not have time to dwell on that as she observed a car crushed and smoking in the divide ahead. Continue reading

In 1967 a song was released that was not among my favorite Beatles’ songs.  I was the ripe old age of 14 and the thought of living to the age of 64 seemed as bizarre and as unrealistic as swimming around the world!  Yet, tomorrow, Paul McCartney’s song will be accurate as far as my years on earth is concerned.  That said, his lyrics are not exactly accurate to my life, but I’m willing to make the necessary adjustments for my adapted lyrics to my husband:

When I get older losing my hair [Not my problem. My overabundance of hair has always been something I don’t relish!]
Many years from now [Actually, tomorrow]
Will you still be sending me a Valentine [My husband knows better than to give me a Valentine’s gift ever!  I don’t want Hallmark to prod him into getting me flowers; I want him to give me things spontaneously, not because he must!]
Birthday greetings, bottle of wine [Wine is not my passion.  Let’s talk about books!]

If I’d been out till quarter to three [Way past my 10:00 pm bedtime.  Not an issue.]
Would you lock the door [He has never locked me out! I don’t assume he will start.]
Will you still need me, will you still feed me
When I’m sixty-four [He most definitely needs me, for which I am grateful.  And I’m the one who feeds him the healthy foods that are now a staple in our lives!]

You’ll be older too
And if you say the word
I could stay with you [Going on 43 years.  Sometimes it seems like 5 others like 105! ]

I could be handy, mending a fuse
When your lights have gone [Above my pay-grade! I’d need to call in reinforcements.]
You can knit a sweater by the fireside [I went through a knitting season years ago. Was definitely above his pay-grade.]
Sunday mornings go for a ride [Every Sunday!]
Doing the garden, digging the weeds [I don’t have a green thumb, but have dabbled in gardening! He does look at our fledgling garden and waters the lawn!]
Who could ask for more [We have Christ….who could ask for more!]
Will you still need me, will you still feed me
When I’m sixty-four [See above]

Every summer we can rent a cottage
In the Isle of Wight, if it’s not too dear [Never been there, and don’t especially want to. Now let’s talk about Carmel by the Sea!]
We shall scrimp and save [Done our share of that.]
Grandchildren on your knee
Vera, Chuck, and Dave [Our grandchildren are a great blessing, but their names are Owen, Ellie, and Parker.]

Send me a postcard, drop me a line
Stating point of view [Text messaging is more like it.]
Indicate precisely what you mean to say
Yours sincerely, wasting away [By God’s grace I am not wasting away!]
Give me your answer, fill in a form
Mine for evermore [Until death do us part!]
Will you still need me, will you still feed me
When I’m sixty-four [He said he would, and he has!]

Happy Birthday to me, and many thanks to my deceased parents: my mother who gave birth to me and to my father who provided for me. And my greatest and continuing thanks to my Heavenly Father who has made me His child!

I am grateful to God that He brought Dorothy Rushdoony into my life. Her influence has much to do with the woman, wife, mother, mentor, and friend I am today. This tribute originally appeared in my book The Biblical Trustee Family as “A Woman of Faith.”  This podcast recording orignally appeared on the Reconstructionist Radio Network.