The Kingdom-Driven Family

Building a Home That Serves Christ and His Kingdom


gatewayThe breakdown of the family is a well-documented reality. But pundits, candidates, politicians, preachers, and educators alike continue to turn to statist solutions to the social ills of our day, failing to recognize that they result from a failure to abide by God’s architecture for society.

In God’s economy, the family is the primary institution that is to train individuals to become responsible participants in every sphere of life. Even among those who acknowledge the Biblical jurisdiction of the family, the sad reality is that very few have any practical concept as to how to turn things around, or even know where to begin. The book of Genesis is the necessary “starting point” (forgive the pun) in determining how this should play out in day-to-day life. With Genesis as our foundation, we can then proceed through the laws of the Pentateuch for our blueprint for social order. Only then can we hope to make any lasting difference beyond the walls of our homes. Continue reading

invasionIt is  easy to become weighted down with all that is wrong in the world. A quick perusal of one’s Facebook feed, or catching an excerpt from network news, might convince someone that the only sane thing to do is run and hide. That is what happens when we walk by sight rather than faith. To combat this oh-so-frequent tendency, it is good to have regular reminders of the way things really are.

One such reminder came my way today as my husband and I were doing a devotional and prayer before he left for work. We use the series A Word in Season, by R.J. Rushdoony. These devotionals are not your run-of-the-mill niceties—they are high-octane fuel for meeting the challenges of the Christian life. The chapter reading for today was entitled “The Birth of Our Lord” and it was potent and timely for us. Here are some choice excerpts:

The accounts of our Lord’s birth give us the story of the world’s most glorious event and its greatest invasion. People today are ready to hear all kinds of nonsense about visitors from outer space and “star wars,” but the greatest invasion imaginable is a matter of indifference to them!

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mother-cuddling-baby_700x700_shutterstock_131776571Today I received a complimentary copy of a parenting magazine in the mail. I don’t know why it was sent, as I definitely do not fit their marketing demographic —  working moms who need help in “doing it all.” There are some articles for stay-at-home moms, but they are few in number.

This “back-to-school” issue had many facets, but an underlying theme in many articles was that the U.S. lags behind when it comes to support for working moms. Whatever helpful advice could be garnered from the articles dealing with healthy lunches, dropping off your child at school without tears, or battling with homework, was overshadowed by the appeal to statist solutions.

There was no mention at all of living life according to the standards of the Bible, and I couldn’t find one piece that even mentioned Christianity. In fact, laced throughout the various sections were ads for methods of “birth control” that showed contented women with just two children. What was being advertised as safe and effective is actually abortifacient in nature; these devices do not prevent pregnancy, rather, they hinder fetal implantation. Yet, the happy women portrayed looked like caring moms, seemingly unconcerned over the ethical and moral use of such devices. Continue reading

stayingonpointThere is a temptation in the age of social media, ready internet access, and talk radio, to lose our focus when it comes to the Great Commission we have been given by the Lord. Depending on what is “trending” in cyberspace or the airwaves, we can get caught up in giving our opinion on the latest disaster, scandal, or incident of political unrest and assume we have done our part. In the end, our opinion does not matter; it is our allegiance to God’s law-word that will make the difference in solving the seemingly insurmountable problems of our day.

“What do you think about the latest shootings?”

“How are you going to vote with such abysmal choices?”

“What about the daily infringement on our rights by the government?”

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firstdayMy three children have a number of years between them. Six and a half years separates my first from my second; the third one came seven and half years later. People used to comment that with the age spread, I probably would not have too many occurrences of them not getting along. Wrong! Since we homeschooled, they had plenty of opportunity to get on each other’s nerves and irritate one another.

My husband and I resolved to apply Biblical law to the predictable outbursts of fighting and disagreement. However, first, we had to examine our own thinking to make sure that we were working out of a Biblical worldview rather than expediency. It would have been easy to yell at them and tell them to knock it off, but if we wanted to see godly change, we would have to apply godly discipline and instruction.

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mirror-2-200x300The sin of Genesis 3:5 involved Adam and Eve failing to accept and live by God’s absolute standard in the design and proper use of the things He had created. As a result, all of us have been born with the propensity to want to have our will be done. The only way to maneuver successfully through the maze of life with other sinners  is to have a standard that transcends us all. In other words, we can only thrive in life if we align ourselves to an absolute, unchanging standard. Thankfully, God has supplied us with such in His law-word, found within the pages of Scripture.

Today in the midst of going about my regular routine, I was able to see some humorous examples of this truth.

Example #1

While I was working out at the gym, a woman walked into the workout area wearing  headphones. It was obvious that she was listening to someone singing and she was wholeheartedly singing along. Unfortunately, she was oblivious to her off-key rendition of whatever duet she was attempting. She smiled and waved at those of us who were present, quite happy and satisfied with herself.

While it is totally acceptable to enjoy one’s workout, I’m fairly certain that if she could have heard herself, she might have adjusted any number of components. While not all of us are Grammy-worthy in our singing efforts, most of us do not enjoy discordant  music.  Here is a mundane, practical way to apply the directive to, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

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dustfeetI doubt many parents, upon looking at their newborn son or daughter, hope in their hearts that their child will grow up to be a fool. That would be as preposterous as desiring that their child have a catastrophic illness or debilitating injury. Parents tend to want the best for their children, and raising a fool does not fit into that category. Yet the very methods employed in raising their little darlings often result in what the Bible classifies as a fool.

The modern thinking regarding a fool signifies stupidity or silliness, and one who makes bad decisions. But, the Biblical perspective (with its considerable discussion about fools) is reflected in the third definition of Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary:

In scripture, fool is often used for a wicked or depraved person; one who acts contrary to sound wisdom in his moral deportment; one who follows his own inclinations, who prefers trifling and temporary pleasures to the service of God and eternal happiness. The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God (Ps. 14:1).

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oxenWhen the subject of unequal yoking comes up,  often people think about marriage, business, and associations. However, I think much is missed because the concept of yoking  is not well understood. A yoke is a wooden beam normally used between a pair of oxen or other animals to enable them to pull as a pair when working; although, a yoke can also be used on a solitary animal.

Jesus instructs in Matthew 11:28-29,

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

This command is directed to more than one person, since the pronoun “ye” is used. Thus, it is safe to assume that Jesus is directing those involved in joint Kingdom work, to place His yoke (His law) upon themselves in order to work effectively (six days) and find rest for their souls (Sabbath). The only reason to be yoked is because there is work to be done. Continue reading

mans-worldThe family is God’s primary institution and it was to the family that the dominion mandate was given.  Thus, it is important to marry and live in marriage according to God’s rules and commands.  Too often, it is easy to act as though, since we are Christians and redeemed in Christ, we have little reason to examine and re-examine some of our presuppositions when it comes to the various callings in our lives — marriage and family being among the most important.  In the following essay, which I am reprinting in its entirety, R. J. Rushdoony’s words help to clarify the biblical position and reorient couples away from some of the pitfalls of wrong thinking on the part of both women and men.

Is It a Man’s World?[1]

One of the things I dislike more than women’s lib is the attitude that “It’s a man’s world.” When I hear a man say this, I regard him as both stupid and anti-Christian.

Of course, there are many men who would like it to be, or believe it really is, a man’s world, and some women have become brainwashed into believing it is true. Not so. It’s God’s world, and you had better believe it. Continue reading

playingthecardAnyone who has played Monopoly knows about the “get out of jail” card. This card allows the player to avoid the unpleasant outcome of missing a turn. In the course of the game, if a player lands on a space or draws a card sending him to jail, this card can come in handy.

Too often in life, without openly acknowledging it, we all seek to have such “cards” in reserve and pull them out when it suits us. More than once during mentoring times with wives, I hear about husbands pulling out the “submission card” on them, virtually ending all discussion. Does the Bible teach that God gives husbands such a “submission card”? If so, where do we find it? Moreover, what does it entail?  Does God give women a “you are not being loving to me” card of their own to justify actions that stem from frustration when their husbands are not being loving to them? Continue reading